Letting go…


To let something go, is the hardest thing anyone will ever have to do.  Especially when the thing you need to let go of is the one thing that you Love.  You feel a Love that is so strong that it is everything to you and you know that to be with that feeling is the best feeling you will ever experience.  Are we to feel this intense Love, just so we are able to experience the intense pain that accompanies the loss of the same?

The pain of that loss, may come from a death or it may come from a separation, or just a knowing that the same Love is not felt in return.  That person you Love so dearly does not feel the same way and can not return that Love.  That leaves a question, to feel that intense Love for someone, are we even expected to feel the Love back or is it our sole purpose to just Love that person the way we we already do for who they are?  Is it attachment that demands that Love be returned?  It is not that persons job to return the Love, especially if they don’t have it.

In Love, we see a togetherness, we see that future, we want to share the Love we have and embrace it for the rest of our lives, to experience each other in eternal bliss and to share experiences of travel and ‘homeliness’ and teachings that each other can pass.  But really our lessons all come from within, only direction can be given externally, the true lesson will always come from within.  That lesson can be painful, very painful. For me, it removes all future and reduces life to the mere present.  It has made me not want for anything and has certainly stopped me looking.  To think that I could not be with the person I so want to be with is excruciatingly painful, to a degree that I just want to give up on life, becasue you feel that life has only pain to offer you.  But life is not just about one emotion, it is about a huge collection of them.  We need to discover and use these emotions to direct us on this uncertain and occasionally seemingly pointless path.

It is said that the world is an external reflection of what is inside.  Yet, we also decide to allow what is, to just be.  If we allow things to just be, we are surrendering to the world, which in some cases is amazing and offers us liberation, but in others, such as climate change, this allowing is not a good idea.  In this, we need to be more conscious in our decisions.  This means a conscious decision to change ourselves in order to change our external world.  This change does not come easy, but if you want your world to be a pleasant one and one that you can imagine would be amazing to share with future generations then we have to make this change.  It is true that it is not easy to make a change, but if you truly want something you will just do it.  If the act of ‘trying’ comes into play and if the trying is holding you back then ask yourself are you really trying hard enough, or are you merely giving up at the slightest resistance you feel.  Resistance is there to test you, it wants to see what truly matters in your life.  You can overcome it in two ways, give in to it and remain the same person, staying in the comfort zone, knowing that your current self is in a safe place and remain there. Or you can step right over it into a new world, where you give yourself an extra dimension.  Fighting the resistance however could be dangerous, it is here where the resistance fights back and the harder you push the more it pushes back.  This is exactly what resistance is.  Do not push against it, just step over it, or stay where you are; safe.

So, where does acceptance fit in to all this?  Resistance and acceptance are different.  Acceptance is not the opposite of resistance. Resistance is built up inside yourself, it is something you create which is holding yourself back.  You can not resist an internal feeling created by someone else, it is not possible.  It is the feeling, you must allow it.  Denying it, is harmful and then you may build up resistance inside yourself, resistance to what IS.  But if you accept what IS, you have side stepped resistance and let go of emotion and pain.  From here your actions come from a sacred place of allowing and acceptance and not from the suppressed needs of control and despair.  Where resistence becomes even more painful is when resistence is related to temptation.  The passage below explains this better than I ever could (it is all bible like, but at least describes what I am trying to convey here):-

James 1:13-15.
Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
The first thing we learn about temptation in this passage is that it never comes from God. God never tempts anyone with evil. God may test someone, either to purify them, or to prove what is in their heart — that is, whether or not they will obey His Word –but God will not test that person with evil. Any temptation to do evil that you are confronted with, then, comes from someone other than the true God.
Equally important, we learn that God cannot be tempted with evil. If there is a single circumstance under which God can be tempted with evil, then James 1:13 is a lie. Fortunately, there is no such circumstance.
God does not merely refuse to give in to temptation; God cannot be tempted with evil. There is nothing in evil that even remotely appeals to God, for He sees it at all times for what it really is, and He sees not only its beginning, but its end as well. God sees the heart of the tempter, the truth behind the lie of the temptation, and the bitter fruit that is its ultimate end. There is nothing evil in God that desires even the slightest flirtation with evil.
The next thing we learn about temptation is how it works. Temptation begins with desire.
James 1:14.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
The word translated “lust” here literally means “desire.” Temptation always begins with desire. If there is no desire to have or to do what God has forbidden, no temptation has taken place.
But the desire to disobey God is not sin. That’s the third thing we learn about temptation. Sin does not take place at the moment of desire. Rather, desire must “conceive” before it can produce sin.
James 1:15.
Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
What does it mean for a desire to “conceive”? We know from scripture where the conception that produces sin takes place: in the heart.
Proverbs 4:23.
Keep thy heart with all diligence: for out of it [are] the issues of life.
It is in our heart that we make our decisions. Sin must take root in the heart before it can be manifested in our lives.

Taken from – Ivan Madox – Thank you.

So, what did I take from all this?

Acceptance, letting go and resistance are all important factors in allowing yourself to be who you are.  You have to explore the decisions you make on a higher level and look at all angles before you can truly identify whether you are taking or have taken the right path.  When you know you are accepting, letting go, resisting and side stepping all the ‘right’ stuff at the ‘right’ time for YOU, only then can you be sure you are on the right path.

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