In recent days, I have been forced to look for a deeper meaning into Christmas. Each year, I blindly ‘celebrate’ an event I call Christmas, whilst knowing very little about it. Sure, school and the society into which I was born, has taught me certain beliefs, although, I have never truly believed them. So now, I felt it was time to really look into why I blindly buy gifts and wish people a Merry Christmas.
There is much information on the net regarding this and here is one post that I found particularly fascinating. Much of he content has been reiterated by various friends and contacts, culminating in my main conclusion that Christianity has hijacked an Earth festival relating to the Sun and over time has been over commercialized.
In a recent post (Stress Free Christmas) I wrote about not buying gifts. It is the first time in my life that I have adopted this choice and at the last minute, I became nervous. I was concerned that despite our pact, my partner would crumble and still purchase me something. I ran through how I would feel. Am I a Scrooge for not getting anything, do I care less because I didn’t get anything, how will it feel to be the first boyfriend that didn’t buy a gift at Christmas?
All these questions were put to rest as I have made it through the day and no gifts have been exchanged.
It has been extremely liberating, and has highlighted how society holds our freedom to ransom. Society has placed pressures on us to buy gifts. It seems to push a certain misconception that if you don’t buy something for someone then you don’t love them, or you don’t care. Well this just isn’t the case. This brings me back to my unnecessary nervousness. I should not feel pressured by a partner to buy them something just because “Christmas” says so. If my partner needs a gift in order to feel loved, then something is wrong. Either I am not loving properly, or my partner is not receiving love properly.
I can safely say, that the liberation gained from not giving gifts simply because it is Christmas, has strengthened my relationship and added a certain depth and meaning. I feel less controlled by society and released from peer pressure.
I write this while sat in a Shopping Mall. I sit, observing the madness, shop, carry, run, shop. I haven’t been Christmas shopping this year. It is very liberating. Even more so, if I completely disconnect from judging those that continue to shop for their last minute gift.
I continue to search for true meaning to December 25th. In the meantime, I wish you all happiness and and a stress free time of appreciation.
If you really feel that you must buy a Christmas tree this season and a few home made ornaments wrapped over a branch in the garden just won’t cut it for you, then I have the best environmental solution!!
Live Christmas tree rental!
Yes, awesome – they deliver the tree, in a pot, to your door and then pick it up when you’re done. This is so awesome and is the best solution for the environment, apart from not having a tree of course, but nevertheless, go check out the Evergrow Live Christmas Tree Rental Site. They are based in Burnaby, Vancouver, BC and deserve a pat on the back for their idea.
Good work boys. You can also find ‘em on Facebook.
International buy nothing day has only just been brought to my attention!
Apparently it is the 20th anniversary of this amazing concept that empowers people to make a statement by simply doing nothing, more importantly, spending nothing.
I am not going to write any points of view here, I just simply want to point people in the direction of something that they may find interesting.
You’ve been sleeping on the streets for two months pleading peacefully for a new spirit in economics. And just as your camps are raided, your eyes pepper sprayed and your head’s knocked in, another group of people are preparing to camp-out. Only these people aren’t here to support occupy Wall Street, they’re here to secure their spot in line for a Black Friday bargain at Super Target and Macy’s.
Go check out the adbusters website for a very interesting read. Lots of things you can do to “#occupyxmas” too.